I want to talk about something that is very crucial to having success with women and pick up in general. A lot of times I find people want fancy solutions to problems and they over analyze pick up. But if you have ever watched a truly natural person around women there is nothing complicated or difficult about what they do. In fact, it is very simple. I am going to address one of these factors today, what I am talking about is FUN and Self Amusement.
You must approach everything not just pick up with the attitude that you are there to have fun, meet new and interesting people and give value to them. This is crucial, to improving and having success with women. And it all boils down to fun and self-amusement. If WHY is not already obvious to you let me just say: WOMEN WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH AND ARE ATTRACTED TO FUN, INTERESTING AND CONFINDENT MEN!
The key to this is to make everything fun and interesting to you! By doing this you get out of your head about making the girl happy and interested and instead focus on HAVING FUN YOURSELF. When you are having fun yourself, women will be drawn to that energy. Believe me, if you start having fun, doing things that amuse you, your success with women will increase greatly. Women will immediately find you more attractive and want to be around you. At the end of the day women are drawn to men who have fun, after all who wouldn’t want to be around and hang out with someone who makes every moment interesting!
So what does it mean to be self-amused in a conversation? For starters, when your out, be more interested in things, if a girl is talking about a trip she took, be genuinely interested in the trip, instead of analyzing how things are going and what to say next. This means LISTENING and being present in the conversation! When you do this, you will naturally be able to vibe off of what is going on now rather than asking the same boring questions over and over again.
Now I know the term fun can be rather ambiguous, but what it comes down to is not being in reaction towards other people, but instead having other people reacting to you.
Think about that for a moment: what is it like being in the presence of a person, whom you find fun to be around? Do you find you’re self-drawn to the magnetism, wanting to be part of it?
That is in essence being in reaction towards someone who is having fun.
You will notice that they are not concerned with what people think about them or if people like them, all they are concerned about is self-amusement and having fun in that moment!
Think for a moment how liberating that would be, not to care what other people think! Just to be involved in what is going on in the moment and to have fun doing it!
How miserable is it when you are out TRYING to pick up girls?! (the first problem is TRYING, ill save that for another time but do me a favour and eliminate that word from your vocabulary)
What I mean by that is, when you go out to PICK UP GIRLS, and that is your only concern, what is that like? Does it seem like a chore, something you have to do because you don’t want to bitch out?
The problem lies in how you identify PICK UP. I found that when I stopped thinking about it as “I have to go and pick up girls” but rather “im going out to have FUCKING FUN and met new and interesting people” I had much more success.
It’s the power of how you frame things in your mind (ill talk more about this another time)
So do your self a favour and HAVE SOME FUCKING FUN
After all if your not having fun while your doing it than that is going to affect how successful you are at it.